September 30, 2020

Don’t Try To Sugar Coat It

Georgia Drew

By For You Mummas

I’m Georgia, a first time Mum to 11 month old Ella. Originally my blog writing started as something to feel productive and to keep me from sitting in my comfy’s on the sofa whenever my little one was having a nap. It’s now transformed into creating my own site foryoumummas and instagram page in the hope to help other mums with tips and hacks that I’ve learnt along the way through my own pregnancy and motherhood experiences. 

Unrealistic Portrayals

I was speaking to a friend recently who was saying she really feels there are so many mums out there who sugar coat motherhood and are never completely honest about their mummy journey. Being a first time mum I get why so many mums probably do this, why would you want anyone to know you’re finding it hard? Especially when all we see on social media is Mums portraying their ‘perfect’ baby, thriving at motherhood, taking everything in their stride and making exotic fruit bowls for their babies breakfast at 6am. But is it really all as it seems? I’d hazard a guess and say I don’t think so. 

I’m not saying that these mums are lying at all, I personally have loved motherhood and feel so lucky every single day to have Ella in my life, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have days where I don’t want to do this or where I just sit in the bathroom on my own and have a little cry. I have days where Ella is teething, biting me, whinging all day, spitting out food, refusing milk and then waking all night long, those days are hard, some of the hardest I’ve ever had in my life, but I still bloody love her!

Reassuring Honesty

I can’t stress enough how much it’s helped speaking to other mums going through the same thing as me, especially as a first time Mum. Let’s be honest, who wants to hear that their baby has been sleeping through the night from day one, crawling at 6 months, walking by 8 and eats Spaghetti Bolognese with a knife and fork at 10 months, no one! You want to hear about the sleepless nights, the worries that your baby isn’t developing, the struggles of keeping your baby stimulated and feeling the pressures of being a ‘perfect’ Mum. I’m not saying I enjoy hearing other mums struggling because who would?

The way I think about it is that these struggles are really just the natural things any mum goes through, they’re real stories of what we’ll all experience with our babies. So why wouldn’t I talk about those nightmare days and listen to others who need to get how they’re feeling off their chest? It’s giving each other that support sometimes that let’s you know it’s not only you feeling like this.

Baby Ella
Baby Ella

Don’t Be Afraid To Share

Without my fellow Mummas I don’t know how I’d be feeling right now, we’ve laughed, cried and shared this journey together. The bond I have built with these Mums is something that will never be broken and they’ll be friends for life (you know who you are baby Mummas). This doesn’t mean we only speak about the bad times, I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t love to shout about an amazing night sleep they got or share that their baby has taken to weaning like a pro, but sharing the little day to day strains actually helps the most sometimes.

Look after yourselves Mummas x


If you liked this blog post and want to read more from Georgia why not check out her other articles HERE

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